I agree that it is quite bright, and if turning it off isn’t possible, maybe different colors would be less bright. I know it can be red, so at least one other color is available. Also, is PWM available on the LED driver controller? If so, that can be used to dim the LED.
As for the other issue where people want to use the built-in IR receiver but don’t like the LED, try LightDims. The original version will dim the LED a lot, but allow the IR receiver to still work, at least on my Vero 4K.